Get Your Ex Back

When is it okay to call your ex?

Before talking about this magical time period, we first need to explore what you should NOT be doing immediately after your ex breaks up with you. Sitting around feeling sorry for yourself is a pretty common one, but not very constructive. Another popular activity would be stalking your ex, hounding them, begging for your relationship back, and trying to get them to change their mind about ending things. Driving past your ex’s job or home is another really bad idea, which could even lead to your ex being afraid of you.

And you know what? All of these activities are going to delay getting back together with your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend, as you push them further and further away from any sort of reunion.  Getting back with your ex becomes next to impossible if you’re not willing to learn self control.

What You Should Do As Your Ex is Breaking Up With You

If you’re lucky enough to read this before your ex breaks up with you, then you probably have a sense that things in your relationship are “off”. If not, you can use this advice on your next relationship, provided you and your ex don’t get back together and run off into the sunset.

When your boyfriend or girlfriend sits you down and begins giving you the breakup speech, what you do during that time period is extremely important. Most people try to fight the break up, and offer what they believe to be convincing arguments that the romance should continue. What these people don’t realize however, is that their boyfriend or girlfriend has already made up their mind… and therefore, it’s too late for that type of approach.

Instead, you need to agree with the break up. This might be the single most important thing you can do if you really want to get your ex back. By not fighting your boyfriend or girlfriend’s decision, you’re actually placing yourself on their side – so to speak. Tell them something like:

“You’re right. Things haven’t been working out, and we both pretty much know it. Maybe going our separate ways is the best thing for us. I wish you luck.”

Imagine your ex’s face as you utter these words. He or she is going to be absolutely stunned that you’re not only okay with breaking up, but that you’re actually suggesting it yourself! Instead of asking how long should I want before calling my ex, you should be working on ways to preemptively blow your ex’s mind, creating an atmosphere where your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend will actually wonder whether or not they even should be breaking up with you… as in the case above. Agreeing to take time apart is going to keep your ex’s respect, seize back power, and actually make you a hell of a lot more attractive than if you just walked away sulking and upset about losing that person.

What You Should Do After Your Ex Breaks Up With You

Now if you’re reading this after the breakup already happened, don’t worry… there are still ways you can get your ex’s attention (and respect, if needed) back. In working to reverse the break up, there are a number of things you can do to make your ex want you back. The best ones are listed here.

“So how long should I wait before calling my ex?”

If you’ve let your ex know that you’ve accepted the end of your relationship… AND you’ve completely broken off contact with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend (meaning no calls, emails, text-messages, and the like…), then the general rule of thumb is to wait 4 weeks before calling them again.

A month’s time is just long enough to give your ex a chance to miss and need you again, but not long enough that they’re starting to move on to a life without you. Not only that, but because you’ve left your ex alone for that time period? He or she will actually welcome a call from you. Calling your ex at that point will be greeted without them wondering if you have ulterior motives, as they’ll already be curious about what you’ve been up to. But this only works if you’ve broken contact completely… you can’t cheat on that one.

Going through a breakup is not as easy as you imagine it to be. If it is your first time to suffer a broken heart it may be that you feel devastated about the whole thing. You may be suffering from sleepless nights thinking of ways to get your ex back. You lie awake considering what actions to take in order to get your ex back. Are there sure shot ways to get your ex back? You bet there are, and in fact, you can make your ex love you again using the same tricks! Read on to find out the 4 sure shot ways to get your ex back…

• Stop calling your ex…It will only push them further away…

At this time it would not do you good to keep on calling your ex. The more you call him or her, the slimmer your chance of getting back is. Stop irritating your ex by making those pathetic little calls and left messages on the phone and sent messages on the cell phone. Give him some time to think things over. At least this will show your ex that you also have some self respect and preservation. This will make your ex like you again, because they will start to miss you, and they will really miss hearing your voice and having you chase them around.

• Focusing on your ex won’t get them back…Focusing on yourself will…

Love yourself more than you love your ex. Make sure you take good care of your looks. It’s no use looking pitiful as you will not only earn the ire of your ex but some of your friends might look at you as someone needy and lost. Focus more on yourself. Aim for something big that could improve your life. You only have one body, and if you can’t even take care of that, then your ex will feel like you can’t handle them or a relationship either. You also have one life, and if you let others drag it down, including your ex, then your ex will also feel like you really just cannot take care of yourself. You want your ex to want you back and love you again, then you are going to have to step up to the plate.

• Time plays a vital role therefore do not ignore it…

Do not force your ex to meet up with you to talk things over. This is just not done for this would put you in a situation that is almost feeble. Have some pride. Now is not the time to be really selfish here, you must try and give your ex the space that they need and the time away from you. This is only fair, and if you cannot do this when you are not with your ex, then they will feel as if you won’t be able to do the same when you are in a relationship with them either.

• Look at the whole thing from your ex’s point of view…

After giving your ex enough time to think things over, then maybe it is time to meet up with him or her to finally air your side. This is in fairness to what has happened, assuming that it was your ex who broke up with you. This time, ask your ex to listen to your side. If by the end of the conversation you feel that it is time to move on, and then do so with no regrets.

You should think about the areas where you can improve as well. Don’t just sit there arguing with your ex over everything, without having actually made an effort or real attempt to change. If you really want your ex to love you again and take you back, you need to change.

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